Wife Sues Mistress for $5.8 Million and WINS!! HAHAHA!

Wife Sues Mistress For $5 Million... And Wins

A mistress owes one North Carolina wife $5.8 million for ruining her marriage.

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned and Dr. Lynn Arcara made this much clear when she sued the women who broke up her marriage for $5.8 million. And won.

Well, sort of.

The Vancouver Sun reveals Arcara used "a centuries-old state law of 'alienation of affection' to sue her closest friend after she stole her husband of six years." As is usually the case, it started with an innocent invitation. Arcara, pregnant at the time, invited her friend, Susan Pecoraro, "to stay at her home in Chapel Hill, N.C., so she could help to decorate the nursery." Soon, Pecoraro was decorating more than the nursery, thus the lawsuit. But, here's the kicker: Pecoraro lives in Maryland, and even though she'll be arrested if she sets foot in North Carolina, she might not have to pay the money, as the judgment cannot be enforced in another state.
We say screw the law!
We bow down to Arcara for not only suing her husband's mistress, but for mustering the courage to actually go through with it. It's something all woman scorned dream of—getting the ultimate revenge on their unfaithful husbands—but it's not easy to spend time reliving every detail of the affair, especially with a child involved.
As we see it, Arcana deserves some kind of consolation for her husband abandoning her. If not for the heartbreak, for her maturity. We've all seen Kathy Bates in Misery, right? Arcara took the high road, so to speak, and $5.8 million might not make the pain go away, but it will certainly ease it for awhile.

What do you think, readers? Should she get the money? Would you ever sue your husband's mistress?

A tale of a woman scorned....and she survives!

http://www.lemondrop.com/2010/09/10/i-found-out-he-was-cheating-on-me-so-i-called-the-other-woman/

Firstly, I had to add this picture because I found it HILARIOUS! Secondly, I hope you took the time to read Lindsay's story which I found on Lemondrop.com.


Upon reading her story, I realized how many things hit home for me and how many similarities took place for me that happened to her. Like, the MANY times I had spoken to the other woman and we spent hours talking and comparing our relationships and finding how similar everything was. The lies told to both of us and how we believed them. But what intrigued me the most was that, my man's OW, also stayed with him after I kicked him out....NUMEROUS TIMES. Granted, that would mean that I forgave him and gave him more chances, but this only after he professed his love for me and our family. How sorry he was. The bouquet of flowers, that I had never received from him before. The gifts of jewelry to dangle from my neck. All the times, he'd work hard to make me believe he had changed. But soon enough, the signs were back and so was she! I always wondered why she just couldn't stay away. I know I kept trying because we had invested our lives into one another and our children, we had  loved each other for so long, it only seemed right for me to fight back.

To this day, things are not crystal clear to me. But I do know that when I asked him to leave the last time, he knew to get back in this door, life changes had to be made. He still not back, he's just not ready to risk it all and she is just willing to accept that he can love her but never the way he loves me. And that is something I can live with. I just don't know how she can. So, like Lindsay, I continue on the road to happiness, while she lives in a make believe world of "perfection".

Do you stay because...

Melanie Fiona says it best when you are in the fence on to stay or go.



She talks about how much she loves him but she doesn't want to be alone. Do you stay because you are comfortable in your situation and you just don't want to start again? Do you stay because he/she is all you know? Or is it because when they are there with you, you feel complete and feel like you get what you need, so you turn the other cheek when you know he/she is doing you dirty? How about, well, he/she comes home and sleeps in my bed at night so it can't be that special?!

Ask yourself, what is your worth? Do you feel like you invested so much into it that you have to try? And how about the other woman, do you confront her or just let her be?


For me, I can't say I went the classy route but at the time it felt right! She needed to be put on blast! And blast she got but in the end, it didn't make a difference. I think it fueled her more to want to be with my man. She looked at it like a game and she was playing to win. So, my blog followers, when she thinks you are playing the game, she will fight....so give up fighting with her and take a long look at your man/woman and make it about you two. Eventually, the signs will become really apparent to her...he/she loves you too and the choice wasn't as easy for him/her as they thought it would be.

Signs - Sex

For many people, they believe cheating is about sex or lack there of in their relationship. What the cheater doesn't realize is that changes in sexual behavior is a big red flag!

For me, it wasn't so much that he did new things or he wanted to experiment in bed. It was more of the, quickie sex and no rebound for round two part, that raised my red flag. Ok, if your thinking, is she for real? Then let me put it to you this way: My man and I had sex ALOT! And at one point in my life I was on a birth control that made me blah! I had no real sex drive and I LOVE SEX. Well, it started to take its toll on our relationship, so no more of that and changed the BC I was on. He was the guy who when round one was over, he was ready for round two and three..lol. Well, eventually, that round two and three became round one...ok, and roll over and go to sleep. RED FLAG RED FLAG!!

For others, you may see signs of the freak comes out at night. Things you know you didn't teach him/her. Or even things they expect from you, that you just have never done. Examples: Fellatio (I'm trying to be proper, lol). Maybe you did this for your man but when it came time for his release, you'd (a) point that baby away, (b) gather it and spit it out or (c) you just didn't do it at all. Now, he wants the full package and those options just aren't what he wants...lol. Well, where did that come from. Granted, maybe he's been watching too much porn but if that's not it, start to turn on the wheels in your head because he is up to something. Or maybe it's more of a your sex life is not enough and you find him/her pleasuring themselves  more. Or even the point where there sexual organs (LMBO) are sore from overuse and they just keep you away all together.

I've heard of people actually smelling their men/women when they get home! Funny enough, my man was a squeaky clean boy and my thing was, if you just came home from playing ball with your boys, why oh why, do you smell so damn clean?! DUH, Bitches, he cleaned up after himself and didn't think it would be a sign lol. I mean really, if your man is with another woman or another man, the smell of sex is there. So, when you start to suspect them, don't let them jump in the shower when they get home....they are covering up the stench! LMAO!

So much more things to look for but really, your bedroom, it shows it all!

Signs - The Cellphone

Here is a question to ask yourself when trying to figure out if he/she is cheating or not. For me, it began with the cellphone! My husband was a man who loved his ringtones! He had every popular song to chose from on his phone and lived by them. Suddenly, the phone was silent.

It was one of the first things I noticed about him changing. Is his phone always on vibrate or silence all together? Does he answer his phone less often than he used to in font of you? Is he unreachable during times and says he was busy, had no service, the phone was dead, he didn't hear it? Does he look at his phone, when he does pry it from its holster, and just put it back in? How about texting? With texting being so popular these days, do you notice him typing alot? Or how about where the phone is? Is it always in his possession? Does the phone ever get put down when you are around? Does he even take it into the bathroom with him? At night, is it firmly stashed away under a shirt or in close proximity, just in case?

These are some of the tell tale signs, he is hiding something! I once caught him on the phone while in the bathroom. He thought I was busy doing something and then all of a sudden, I could hear his voice. I got up thinking he was talking to me and I just couldn't hear him. When I walked over to the bathroom door, he was telling someone about his day..weird right? So, I went to open the bathroom door and it was LOCKED! (We never locked doors in the house, in case one of the kids needed to use the bathroom.) And he was just starting to confirm all my suspicions. I knocked on the door and he reacted in anger. (sign number 2) I asked him to open the door and it felt like an eternity before that happened. When the door knob was in arms reach while sitting on the toilet bowl. When he did finally open the door, I asked who he was talking to. And I got the..."what are you talking about,I wasn't talking to anyone" speech. ***SO NOW I WAS HEARING VOICES, HUH*** Well, when I asked to see his phone, he got defense again (another sign) and when I reached for it (btw, the shower was running) he grabbed it and jumped in the shower...paranoia (sign sign sign). Boy, what happened within the next 12 hours would change my life forever.

The same man who had promised to love, honor, and cherish me had just confirmed all my suspicions and broken me.

Damn those ringtones! I knew when the phone usage changed, it would be how I found out the truth. And sure enough....finding out the truth hurts! But I had to know! And so, the same cell phone that gave me suspicions would be his downfall for my truth!

So, Ladies and Gentlemen, that trusty phone that you thought was there for you to contact him/her, may just be the same way that the other one contacts him most. Look for the signs, trust your gut, it's usually on the money!

THE BIG "D"

Thinking back on my marriage and where it is now, it leaves me with the feeling of...what if I just divorced his ass from the get?! I should've made him see that his behavior was unacceptable and that if he thought the grass was greener with her...then GO! But I didn't! I held on to what was rightfully mine, or at least I thought it was. He and I over the years have discussed divorce and yet neither one of us has yet to file! I honestly believe that making the decision to divorce has to be one you are ready for. There is such a finality and ending in divorce that can make one feel like their world has ended. When one is mentally and emotionally prepared for a divorce, the outcome is so much easier to transition.

I have watched a good friend of mine, find her husband cheating on her, then she leaves him and divorces him. She then starts a relationship with a married man...tsk,tsk,tsk...I guess part of her felt like someone did it to me. It took a long time for her to realize that she was putting a rift in a family that didn't need her to be the reason for rocking their marriage. She loved him and she spent every moment she could with him but in the end, she knew it just wasn't for her to be in the drama. She uprooted herself and her kids, when she hit rock bottom in more ways than one, and she moved. She gave herself space to get over him and move on. In the process, the man she once called her husband, asked for her forgiveness and that he still loved her. This time around, she was prepared! She gave him a list of things she needed from him...just to consider the thought of dating him again, let alone, marrying him again. He surprised her, he did everything and more! Today, they are happy and together and raising their family.

Why do I tell you this story?

Divorce doesn't always have mean ending. It can be a new beginning. It can be a moment to gather yourselves and find one another in a way that is freeing. I'm not saying that all couples who divorce, should try again. I'm just saying that, my friend was on both sides of the fence. She was the one cheated on, and she was the other woman too. She learned from both experiences and in the end, she chose herself and then and only then, could she open herself up to rekindling love with the one person who sent her on her initial downward spiral.

So, here I am, in limbo, loving him and hating him. Wishing I could just be ready for a divorce and then again hoping that there may be hope to work things out. It is such a confusing time. One moment, he and I are yelling at one another and how he doesn't want to be married to me and the next he is saying, I'm sorry, I don't mean to be mean. I say things because you get me so angry. Those moments are what keep me so crazed about this whole process!

Divorce, when is it time? When do you know? Is that what she (the other woman) waiting for? How do you get to that point?

How Did This Happen To Me?

Sometimes in life we are thrown into a whirlwind and find ourselves asking, "How did this happen?" And for me, it was just like that. I wanted so much to know where I went wrong and why I was even in this situation.For me, the man I married would never ever cheat on me. But one day, I just knew. I knew and I asked, nonchalantly, if there was something he needed to tell me and he just replied no! Guilt written all over his face, I waited it out. I trusted in his love for  me and believed he'd make the right decision on his own. BOY, was I wrong! This went on for almost a year before he got really caught. How he got caught, is irrelevant, but what happened next would rock my world forever! 

The confrontation was ugly and the conversation with the other woman was no better. I mean what kind of woman has an affair with a married man with children. What kind of woman continues on with it, even after being confronted with the truth?! And even more, what kind of man chooses to ruin his family? 

I still am not sure I know the answer to these questions. I would love to say it was all her but reality and history have taught me that it takes two! And these two just happened to happen to me!

In this blog, you will hear my stories, stories from others and what happens after the affair. I will have guest bloggers, who tell you their stories, as the adulterer, the other woman, and the one cheated on. What happened to them, what happened to me, how it ended or if it ended. I want to open this blog up to the world and help others, like me, to know the signs, know the possibilities and see if they can save their relationships from the "World of Infidelity".